How Worthy of Love Are You?

A woman falls in love with a man. She is wild about him, and will follow him anywhere. But he has a hard time believing that she loves him, and interprets her love as neediness or loneliness. However, she is so smitten by him that she simply won’t let him go. He finally accepts that she genuinely ...read the rest

Learn to Hold Yourself Accountable for Your Angry Outbursts

Dear Neil: I know I have an anger problem and I need help to control it. When things don’t work out, when I’m running late or when I’ve taken too much on, I can turn into a monster. I snap and yell at my kids, and I say the most terrible things to them that I bitterly regret afterwords. ...read the rest

Dating Can be Challenging, Regardless of Your Age or Experience

Dear Neil: Could you explain how dating works? I am 29 years old, and don’t know how to tell a guy that I want him to invite me out on a date. I get routinely texted to hang out with a guy and his friends, but I don’t want to just hookup with guys anymore. I’m looking for a serious ...read the rest

Here’s What You Have to do in Order to Forgive

Dear Neil: Could you address the subject of forgiveness? Although I know what it means to forgive, I’m baffled by how to do it.

My wife abruptly dumped me for another guy, and I feel extremely hurt, rejected and humiliated. I really cared about her, supported her, was good to her and ...read the rest

Quiz: Are You Controlling?

Do you think you are controlling? Do other people tell you that you are too controlling? Do your relationships have a history of control issues or power struggles? Have lovers and/or spouses objected to you making important decisions without them? Do you take charge of the money in your household ...read the rest

Traits of an Emotionally Unavailable Person

Dear Neil: I’m a college student, and I started seeing a guy that already had a girlfriend. The only time we would meet was when he wanted a booty call. When he finally left his girlfriend, he bailed on me as well, telling me that he never really falls in love. Now he has a new girlfriend. Do ...read the rest

How to Romance a Woman

Here’s a snap quiz in honor of Valentine’s Day. When women use the term romance, what do they mean? What does romance mean to most women? And when men use the term romance, what does romance mean to them?

Before you read what I’m about to say, answer the above questions first.

One ...read the rest

How Important Am I to You? You Have to Show Me.

Dear Neil: I’ve been married for 37 years. My husband no longer notices me. For Christmas, he bought me a book I’d already read, the same calendar I’d already purchased and a lovely pair of earrings. I had told him about the book and calendar when I read and bought them. Last evening, ...read the rest

How it Might be Possible to Win Back Trust

Dear Neil: My fiancé has cheated on me our entire 3 year relationship, having been faithful for perhaps 2 months in that 3 year period. He proposed to me a year ago, and has admitted that he only gave me a ring because of all the trouble he was in with me. But he hasn’t been faithful since ...read the rest

Rules for Women in a Committed Relationship

Dear Neil: I was wondering if you have a Wife 101 column to go with your Husbandry 101 column. What are the equivalent rules for women?        Committed Lady in Australia

Dear Australia: Here they are.

Many women adopt a passive attitude toward romance; they tend to think of courtship, ...read the rest

How to Strengthen Your Relationship

Over the course of my career as a marriage counselor, I have heard thousands of stories about intimate relationships that have gone wrong.

Love, which takes much less effort in the beginning of a relationship, increasingly requires far more effort, relational skills and stick-to-it-ness as ...read the rest

The Only Way to Affair-Proof Your Relationship

We know that for the past 30 or so years, the divorce rate has been stuck between 40 and 50 percent of marriages. We also know that some people who elect to stay together are not happy together. They remain with each other because of children, religious beliefs, economic necessity or fear they won’t ...read the rest

Finding Your Voice

Dear Neil: My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months. I am in my 20′s, and am in university. He’s moving at the end of next month an hour away (I do not have a car), and when he gets another contract, he could be going anywhere. This man is someone I think I love, and I ...read the rest

How To Tell When He’s Not That Into You

Dear Neil: I don’t know how to start, but I am ever so desperate. I have fallen in love with a man who is 30 (I am 20), and we have been on and off for the past 18 months. We are also long distance, because he is in Belgium and I live in London. Throughout the course of the relationship, I have ...read the rest

How to Destroy Your Relationship

Through the years as a marriage therapist, I have been asked a countless number of times:  “We were so wild about each other.  So much in love.  So passionate.  How could we have possibly grown this cold and distant from each other?”

There are a variety of answers to ...read the rest