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Does this happen in your relationship?
One person (let’s say it’s you) makes a request of your intimate partner. Maybe you want help with cleaning or straightening up the house. Perhaps you feel your partner is following the car in front of you on the highway too closely, and want him/her ...read the rest
Here are the basic intimacy skills a healthy intimate relationship requires of us:
- That I communicate with you the very best I can. Good communication takes place when I put aside my own thoughts, feelings and needs for a while to concentrate my attention on you while you are speaking. ...read the rest
Everyone knows that it feels more intimate to be connected to the people we care about and love.
But what does that mean, and how do you do it? How do you stay connected with your spouse or intimate partner–or for that matter with your children, family and friends? What do you do? How ...read the rest
Dear Neil: I’m a 24 year old male in my final year of university. Sometimes I can be extremely confident, with high self-esteem. But sometimes, I plunge into the darkest of places, looking for affection, recognition, praise and love, and I can be very afraid of what other people think of me. ...read the rest
Dear Neil: My husband and I were married at a very young age–he was 21 and I was 19. We’ve now been married 25 years and have successfully raised a loving family. We are currently empty nesters in our mid-forties. In the past 2 years our jobs have changed and we both are working from home. ...read the rest
A woman falls in love with a man. She is wild about him, and will follow him anywhere. But he has a hard time believing that she loves him, and interprets her love as neediness or loneliness. However, she is so smitten by him that she simply won’t let him go. He finally accepts that she genuinely ...read the rest
Dear Neil: I know I have an anger problem and I need help to control it. When things don’t work out, when I’m running late or when I’ve taken too much on, I can turn into a monster. I snap and yell at my kids, and I say the most terrible things to them that I bitterly regret afterwords. ...read the rest
Dear Neil: Could you explain how dating works? I am 29 years old, and don’t know how to tell a guy that I want him to invite me out on a date. I get routinely texted to hang out with a guy and his friends, but I don’t want to just hookup with guys anymore. I’m looking for a serious ...read the rest
Dear Neil: Could you address the subject of forgiveness? Although I know what it means to forgive, I’m baffled by how to do it.
My wife abruptly dumped me for another guy, and I feel extremely hurt, rejected and humiliated. I really cared about her, supported her, was good to her and ...read the rest
Do you think you are controlling? Do other people tell you that you are too controlling? Do your relationships have a history of control issues or power struggles? Have lovers and/or spouses objected to you making important decisions without them? Do you take charge of the money in your household ...read the rest
Dear Neil: I’m a college student, and I started seeing a guy that already had a girlfriend. The only time we would meet was when he wanted a booty call. When he finally left his girlfriend, he bailed on me as well, telling me that he never really falls in love. Now he has a new girlfriend. Do ...read the rest
Here’s a snap quiz in honor of Valentine’s Day. When women use the term romance, what do they mean? What does romance mean to most women? And when men use the term romance, what does romance mean to them?
Before you read what I’m about to say, answer the above questions first.
One ...read the rest
Dear Neil: My fiancé has cheated on me our entire 3 year relationship, having been faithful for perhaps 2 months in that 3 year period. He proposed to me a year ago, and has admitted that he only gave me a ring because of all the trouble he was in with me. But he hasn’t been faithful since ...read the rest
Dear Neil: I was wondering if you have a Wife 101 column to go with your Husbandry 101 column. What are the equivalent rules for women? Committed Lady in Australia
Dear Australia: Here they are.
Many women adopt a passive attitude toward romance; they tend to think of courtship, ...read the rest
We know that for the past 30 or so years, the divorce rate has been stuck between 40 and 50 percent of marriages. We also know that some people who elect to stay together are not happy together. They remain with each other because of children, religious beliefs, economic necessity or fear they won’t ...read the rest
Why Choose Neil?
- He is a specialist on what goes wrong in intimate relationships---and how to repair your relationship.
- He has 33 years in private practice as a relationship specialist/licensed marriage counselor.
- He is the author of the popular syndicated "Relationships" newspaper column, which is read around the world.
- He is regularly interviewed as a relationship expert by radio, newspaper and television media.
- He is the relationship advice columnist for the Denver Post.
- He will guide you to repair your relationship quickly, with the fewest number of appointments possible.
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