Feeling Worthy of Love

Dear Neil:  This is a story of two men.  One is a gentle man who genuinely likes me and who nurtures me, is wonderfully caretaking, kind, emotionally healthy and sweet.  The other man is totally self-absorbed and self-centered, jealous, insecure, controlling, manipulative, mean-spirited, dishonest and he treats me like dirt.  Oh, did I mention that he has a drinking problem?  Or that he calls me every demeaning name in the dictionary?

Dear Neil:  I am 32 years-old, and I’m a mess.  I grew up in a mess of a home—parents divorced when I was five.  I had an abusive step-father.  My father and I are now estranged.  I’ve spent years trying to connect the dots between my childhood and the person I am, so I can become a better version of myself.  But it hasn’t worked. 

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