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“We have been married 38 years, have four children and five grandchildren,” writes a woman from Milwaukee. ”Last December, I confirmed my suspicion (that my husband) had been seeing someone else. She’d just turned 40, which is three years older than our oldest daughter.”“The ...read more

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More Steps to Forgiveness

Note:  This is the second of a two-part series.

Here are more suggestions for letting go of your hurts and resents in order to forgive:

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Changing Narcissistic Behaviors

Dear Neil:  I need to cure my narcissistic behaviors.  But I don’t know where to start.  Can you help?

Unsure of What To Do

Dear Unsure:  Let’s say your intimate partner says she isn’t feeling valued and cared for by you.  She mentions that in order to ...read more

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Forgiving Your Parents and Making Peace With The Past

Note: This is second of a two-part series.

We have this notion that our parents were born as adults.  Frequently, people believe their parents were in charge of themselves when they had children, that their parents knew what they were doing—and that however they behaved around their ...read more

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Readers Respond to Advice on Forgiving Sexual Assualt

Dear Neil:  I was surprised to read that you advised a woman who said that her husband had sexually assaulted her once, years ago, to work on forgiving her husband and losing her resentment.  Like all the responsibility is hers.  How about advising her to call the police?

Wellington, ...read more

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Forgiveness Requires Letting Go Of Resentment

Dear Neil:  I wonder if you would address the situation of marital rape.  This happened to me many years ago (once).  I am a senior now and still have not been able to put this behind me.  I still resent my husband deeply, along with his many lies and deceits.  He does none ...read more

Categories: Forgiving

More Steps to Forgiveness

Note:  This is the second of a two-part series.

Here are more suggestions for letting go of your hurts and resents in order to forgive:

  • Look at the person who offended you apart from the offense, weighing the good against the bad.  When somebody hurts you, it’s normal ...read more

Categories: Forgiving Trust and Betrayal

How to Forgive Husband’s Betrayal

Note:  This is the first of a two-part series.

Dear Neil:  My husband slept with one of our business customers 18 months ago.  I found out, and my life just hasn’t been the same since.  I have tried to put it behind me, but I just can’t get the betrayal out of my head.  ...read more

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Making an Apology

Dear Neil:  I think I owe my boyfriend an apology for repeatedly getting angry with him, being demanding and selfish, insulting him and generally treating him poorly.

I’ve never been very good at apologizing to people—it makes me feel weak, bad and full of shame.  How do I apologize ...read more

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How Do I Let The Past Go?

Dear Neil:  About four years ago I was working out of town.  Over the two weeks I was away, my wife had a brief romantic fling.  Except she lied about it, telling me they were only friends.  However, the younger kids told me of a night when Mommy wasn’t home at 1:45 a.m, and ...read more

Categories: Forgiving Making Peace with the Past Trust and Betrayal

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