What Does My Boyfriend Need in Order to Make Up His Mind?

Dear Neil:  Twice in the past year my boyfriend of two years has indicated to me that he’s confused and needs to think about our relationship.  The first time was six months ago.  Now he wants more time, and I’m not sure I want to give him any more time.  ...read more

Frustrated Man More Committed Than The Woman He’s Dating

Dear Neil: I am increasingly frustrated at what I think is “Robin’s” emotional unavailability. I find myself giving far more ...read more

Choosing Unavailable Men

Dear Neil: Awhile back I met and grew close to a guy who was in a 10-year relationship with someone else. He always told me to be open to meeting someone else. So I met someone else, and we started dating. Things were complicated from the beginning because his life ambition is to become a catholic ...read more

How Committed Are You – Truthfully?

Note:  This is the second of a two-part series.

This is a continuation of the soul-searching questions about how committed you are to your intimate partner or spouse:

• Do the two of you make joint decisions on major matters?
• Do you keep each other informed?
• Can ...read more

A Soul-Searching Look at Commitment

Note:  This is the first of a two-part series.

My wife and I have been married twenty five years, but every so often I talk about separating and/or divorcing because I am unhappy with our relationship and the way my wife acts.  Does commitment waver for couples depending on the ...read more

Is There a Way I Can Get My Boyfriend to Commit to Me?

Dear Neil:  It seems the differences between men and women have been shattering my hopes and dreams as of late.  My boyfriend (well, no longer) and I are both 33, we have been together for almost two years, having mounds of fun together.  But all talks about the future have always ...read more

What To Do If You’re The “Other” Woman

Dear Neil:  I am an avid reader of your column.  I would like for you to address the flip side of infidelity—and discuss the “other” woman.  She is not always an evil harlot looking for fun.  I can speak from experience, since I have been on both sides.  ...read more