Dear Neil: I used to be a very jealous wife, and am happy to tell you that I have changed. My jealousy and fits of rage were rooted in insecurity. Partly, I have baggage because my father was disloyal to my mother. Partly, it was that I was bashful and quiet, and my husband is outgoing and charismatic. But I got tired of feeling angry all the time, decided it was not changing anything for the better and looked inward for some answers. I developed hobbies and friendships. I refused jealous thoughts and behaviors.
