Relationship Problems - Conflicts - Issues

Do You Have a Hard Time Trusting People?

Note: This is the first of a two-part series.

Answer true (T) or false (F) to the following statements:

   1. I believe most people can be trusted. ___
   2. I find it easy to trust those close to me. ___
   3. The people I have loved the most have been trustworthy. ___
   4. The people closest to me throughout my life have been sensitive to my needs.___
   5. I was raised with very responsible people. ___
   6. I have several models of happy love relationships in my family. ___

The Loss of Sexual Desire

All of these factors can contribute to loss of sexual desire:

Money Issues and Intimacy: An Inventory

Money is the topic that is consistently reported to be the number one problem area for couples. Not jealousy or sex or chores, but money. So if you and your partner don’t always see eye-to-eye when it comes to money, you’re not alone. The sheer number of decisions that revolve around money makes it unlikely that two people will always agree about what to do with the stuff. So says, Jenkins, Stanley, Bailey and Markman in the book You Paid How Much For That? (Jossey-Bass).

Is Your Man Having a Midlife Crisis?

Take this quiz, courtesy of Gay Courter and Pat Gaudette in the book “How To Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis” (Perigee). How many of the following fits your man?

Are You Afraid of Commitment?

Answer the following questions honestly, using the scale seldom, sometimes or often:

Are You Walking on Eggshells in Your Relationship?

Are you walking on eggshells a lot in your intimate relationship? If so, you may be bonded to someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder traits.

Borderline Personality Disorder is what it sounds like it is: it’s a personality disorder.

Take the following survey to find out whether that special someone in your life fits these disturbing traits. These questions are not meant as a definitive scientific diagnosis, just a useful guideline.

What Are The Conflicts/Issues in Your Relationship?

What are the issues, conflicts or problems in your relationship? Take the following questionnaire to find out. Underline all that applies:

Do You Get Flooded With Anger?

In a conflict with your mate, have you ever been flooded with anger? When you get flooded, you feel emotionally and physically overwhelmed. Most likely you think thoughts of righteous indignation (“I don’t have to take this anymore”) or innocent victimhood (“Why is s/he always picking on me?”) Meanwhile, your heart is pounding, you’re reactive and agitated.

To discover whether flooding is a significant problem is your relationship, answer the following questions:

Circle T for true and F for false.

How Critical Are You?

Take this quiz if you’d like to learn how critical you are:

Are You Walled Off?

Do you have a guarded heart? Do you have a wall around your heart that prohibits genuine intimacy, even with the people you love and feel closest to?

Take this quiz to find out: